Can you imagine how quickly bacteria multiply in the body and cause disease if the body is not resistant? Now imagine how quickly negative thoughts multiply, causing anxiety, doubt and fear if our emotional body is not stable. Imagine that a child also has an emotional immune system. A little for a joke, a little for real, but above all to make it easier for you to imagine how important it is, in what emotional environment the child grows up. It is my naming that denotes the system of emotions, feelings, thoughts, and consequently the behaviors that emanate from them.
The most important task of this system is the ability to regulate emotions, feelings, thoughts and behaviors and to integrate new experiences into this system. A child’s emotional immune system is shaped in relationships. Relationships that offer the child a secure attachment where the child has the experience of being heard, felt, accepted, where the parent is attuned to him, and where he has a sense of self-worth are an environment where the child can develop a resilient emotional system.
One of the extremely important goals of education is to help children build their emotional immune system over time, which will enable them to have quality and stable interpersonal relationships, which will eventually allow them to interpret the stimuli from the environment correctly. responded that he would have a high threshold of self-regulation and the ability to integrate, allowing him to make conscious choices instead of reactive behaviors.
The emotional immune system also strengthens and builds a system of beliefs about oneself and the world. The beliefs “I am worthy”, “I am loved”, “I am capable”, “I can”, “I am respected”, “I can feel”, “I can think”, “I am important” are those beliefs that raise the resistance of the emotional immune system, on the contrary, the beliefs “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not loved”, “I’m not capable”, “I can’t”, “I’m not considered”, “I don’t feel”, “I’m not smart”, “I’m not important” greatly lower the ability of the emotional immune system to protects the child.
You all know that a newborn is protected by the antibodies he gets from his mother, partly also through her milk. Soon after birth, the body’s immune system takes on a lifelong task, which is to identify invading pathogens such as worms, viruses and bacteria. What about antibodies that protect the child in the emotional realm? The antibodies that a child develops during adolescence through parental attunement, safe relationships, and a supportive environment are those antibodies that he or she carries with him or her throughout life.
If you build up a few of these antibodies as a child, you will also lose a lot of energy at this level in adulthood and will fight for emotional security and safe relationships all the time. Therefore, it is important that together with the child we also build antibodies in his emotional body so that when he grows up he can be emotionally stable and resilient.